The 4 Tendencies


According to Gretchen Rubin, the author of The Happiness Project, most people fall into one the four tendencies:

  • Upholder: Meets outer and inner expectations
  • Obliger: Meets outer expectations; resists inner expectations
  • Questioner: Resists outer expectations; meets inner expectations
  • Rebel: Resists outer and inner expectations

And knowing which one is you can help you better understand what motivates you, so you can change your habits for a happier life.

Your tendency captures the reasoning behind your actions, why you do or don’t make it to the gym even though you’ve resolved 20 times to go this year.

I found out that I’m a questioner – no big surprise there – “I do what I think is best, according to my judgment. If it doesn’t make sense, I won’t do it.”

Growing up, my nickname was curious George, and I wanted to do what I wanted to do. Questioners are known for only responding to an expectation if it makes logical sense to them, and asking a LOT of questions to determine that.

Curious what your tendency is? Take the quiz here.

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