So you get stuck planning everything when you were supposed to be a guest. It’s happened to the best of us. You offer to help a friend with a party she’s hosting, and then all of the sudden you’re making the main dishes, decorating, buying the booze, and not getting any credit for it. Your mister claims that this time he’s going to plan a special date for you, but when Saturday evening rolls around he still has no idea what restaurant you’re going to and what you might do after. Or maybe your friends are getting together and once again it’s your turn to pick the place. You could sulk about it and spend the whole night (that was supposed to be fun) irritated about all the work you put into the event.

Or you could look at it this way.

Now you get to make everyone do exactly what you feel like doing. No going places you don’t want to go! Wearing theme clothes you think are stupid! Eating food you don’t like! Everything is just how you like it. And once you stop being so annoyed, you can look around and enjoy how much fun everyone else is having. Sometimes the things that make us the happiest, can make us the unhappiest while we’re getting them ready. Party planning is a key example of this very concept. While it can be tedious to arrange all the details, seeing a fun evening go off without a hitch and reveling in the shared happiness with your companions can make it all worthwhile.

And if you think those party hats are too cute, check out the DIY here and make some for the next time you’re strong armed into throwing together the festivities.